Hey, I’m Steffo

I was a boy when my mother's bipolar disorder and alcoholism made our home unpredictable. She couldn't take care of herself, let alone me, so I grew up without much of her presence or care. I didn't know how to interact with girls, and I was completely disconnected from my own sexuality.

My first real relationship felt like walking on clouds — until I found out she'd been cheating on me with multiple men for a year. It shattered me and dropped me into what I can only call a dark night of the soul.

Not long after, my best friend and neighbor died suddenly in an accident, at the same age as me. Losing him broke something open in me — and, strangely, it became the start of a real spiritual awakening. For the first time, I could witness my own mind instead of being run by it. I knew there had to be more to life, and I had to go find it.

I sold my apartment and my car, packed what was left into boxes, and left on a one-way ticket with a backpack and a broken heart. Over the years that followed I traveled to more than 21 countries and spent over $100,000 in search of answers.

In India and Thailand I found Yoga and Tantra for the first time, and knew instantly it was what I was meant to do. I studied in the foothills of the Himalayas under teachers including Sadhguru, Mooji, Guruji Maharaj, David Deida, and Prem Baba, and completed a four-year, 1,500-hour accredited curriculum — fasting, silent meditation, dark retreats, and deep tantric initiation among them. I still return to India every year to continue that study.

Eventually I took part in a modern Rite of Passage — an old tradition for guiding men from boyhood into manhood that most of us in the West never receive. It changed me completely: more mature in my relationships, more capable of real self-love, and finally in command of my own sexual energy rather than at its mercy.

That link to older wisdom has been broken for most men — nobody taught our fathers, so they couldn't teach us. Helping other men find it is what became The Tantric Man Experience™: a way to bridge the gap between masculine and feminine, and build men who lead with strength and love in equal measure.